Ok, so let’s face it. Your dream wedding is coming up all too quickly or not quick enough, and things are going well. But they could be better. For instance: your soon to be mother-in-law. Not every lady has the luxury of hitting it off the first time with their fiancé’s mother, and some have to work for the bond. And that is ok.
A few tips of advice: for starters, have patience. You are not going to win that relationship over all at once. You have to take it slow and be considerate. Take everything in and really put your heart in to it. If you are just doing it for your husband-to-be, then she will definitely see that. Your heart has to be there.
Also, when you are trying to get to know her, let her get to know you, too. Be yourself and do not put on a front. You want her to get to know you, not the person you want her to think you are. Because think about it: if you are giving her a picture of someone that is not you, and you plan on marrying her son until death do you part, that’s a long time to be putting on an act.
It is important that you get to know your mother-in-law. Learn about her; more than just what kind of mother she is to your husband, but who she was even before she was a mother. You do not have to be best buds with this woman, but you need to be on a page where you can be comfortable and civil with each other. So give it your best shot.
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by: Candles and Such
One of the best parts about being a bridesmaid is planning the bachelorette party. The participating bridesmaids as well as the bride herself look forward to the occasion. But with the bachelorette party, the planning of it might be a little difficult. There are so many options as to what the night could entail, and yet you do not know where to even start. You want to make it as fun as you possibly can for the bride, and you do not want to miss out on anything you could have done.
The first thing you want to consider is the demeanor of the bride. Is she mellow, is she on the wild side, does she embarrass easily or can she make a fool of herself and still have a great time? If she is on the mellow side and she does embarrass easily, then you will want to keep it low-key even though you as a bridesmaid are the opposite. It is not about the bridesmaids and what their interests are, even though you want them to have fun as well. It is about the bride and showing her a good time, whatever that means to her. For those mellow girls, plan for a day at the spa or a girl’s night watching movies and playing Truth or Dare like you used to do back before high school. As for those wild-child bride, plan for a bar crawl or a Scavenger Hunt through town.
One tip to remember though: if after you have planned everything, the bride becomes uncomfortable or really would rather opt to not do what you have planned, always provide an alternate plan of attack. You want to keep her happy and keep her comfortable. Try your hardest not to plan things that are outside of her comfort zone. This is her bachelorette party. This is her night. So make it the best for her.
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by: Candles and Such
No, in this case “The One” is not referring to your hubby-to-be. It is referring to the dress, that special dress that will distinguish you from the bridesmaids. Some ladies may feel quite intimidated when it comes to the topic, and some may feel all for it and ready to go shopping! But for those of you who need a little guidance first, here you go!
First of all, do not go alone! Maybe for the first time when you are just window-shopping to get a feel for what would make you comfortable, fine. However, when you are trying some of those dresses on, you may feel slightly bombarded by the sales staff. So pack up your herd of girls and hit the stores! They will be delighted that they are sharing in such a huge decision, and they will be the ones to give you the more honest opinion you will definitely need.
Next is a two-in-one. Do not shop early and when you buy the dress, stop looking all together! When you shop too soon, the time between the purchase and the wedding may give you room for things to go wrong; something could happen to the dress, OR you might see another dress later that you love far more than the one you got! Which is why when you buy a dress, you stop looking. Your mind will be encouraged to think of other options, which will create doubt about the dress you bought.
Lastly, if you are the bride that by far looks good in everything, there might not be “the one,” but a few that are great. In which case, you might want to stick to the dress that flows best with the theme of your wedding. You will look amazing in your dress and it will feel right when you are walking down that aisle.
Do your homework when it comes to the purchase of your wedding dress. You don’t want to buy just anything, and you want to do your best to ensure you are still going to love it by the time that special day rolls around. So ladies, get to shopping!
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by: Candles and Such
